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Is the Law of Attraction Fair?
By Caroline Carey

I love the ideas of ‘the law of attraction’ and I use those techniques regularly myself, well, why not!
Focusing on the good things that I want to have and do and the good feelings I want to experience, visualizing techniques, positive action and positive thoughts of wealth and abundance. Bringing this into a daily ritual and practice.

As Buddha said “With our thoughts we make the world”

I want to be comfortable in my life, I want that for my children, good homes, education, and everything to go with that.
I would have to question myself if I did not. That’s another trip, its called ‘the poverty mentality’ I discovered once that some people really believe it’s a good thing to have?

Any way I have watched The Secret. Taught its principals bought a copy each for my children and enjoyed every minute of it. I read books on affirmations, spiritual abundance, I’ve listened to cd’s watched dvd’s on personal empowerment and tranced myself out on hypnotic suggestive material; I have a library full of this stuff.

And then that old thing creeps in, ‘what about the poverty in the world?’ ‘What about all those starving little kids in Africa?’
‘The homeless, the sick, the dying?’
What is it that helps one person get rich and famous when there is so much suffering in the world? Is this the American dream? After all, most of these teachers do seem to be American and mostly male, have you noticed this? In ‘The Secret’ itself out of 24 teachers I counted only 4 women.

I think the thing that has helped me the most regard this question of abundance or lack of situation in the world, and what I have taught myself, is the fact that unless I truly love and look after myself, and put myself and my needs first, which appears to be selfish of course, then it is not possible for me to do very much for another. There is a great article on the three steps of self-care by teacher Michael Neill; he says

…How do we express unconditional love and care for our children when everything they do is winding us up and making us crazy?
The question behind this question is, I believe, at the heart of all relationships:
How can I support my loved ones in sustaining their own well being without sacrificing my own?

I trained with Michael and guarantee, a great guy and worth a visit to. See solutions café.

But I have come to realize for instance, as a busy single mum, businesswoman, teacher, dancer, writer, poet, actress, gosh life is full! (And I’m so happy in all of this) that as I become more successful in my own work and I can afford the cleaner, the child care, the holiday time off breaks, the time also to just sit, to be and to meditate, I can let go of worrying about the mundane sides of life like how am I going to pay the bills! And working my butt off trying to make ends meet, my focus then can go far further outward to enable me to look at the worlds problems and not only look, but positively get out there and do something. Even if it is a small contribution. An easier life here and with all of my brood, yes it has been hard work, but it now means putting more energy into that which is calling out for help in the bigger world.
It means we become less self-absorbed with our own small worlds, which in some case’s can be very tiny.

So we have absolutely no right not to create abundance in our own lives, simply because, actually we can, it is really possible in this culture. That is not going to go away. We all have a mind. And, I believe, it is selfish and unfair to us as well as others not to use it, wisely. We are of no use to others if we do not put ourselves first, love ourselves implicitly, and give ourselves the opportunity to make the most of our lives so we have the strength, the financial resource’s and the energy to be able to be effective in helping the lives of those less fortunate.

Often when we do give to others when we are not ready to, when we don’t really want to because we haven’t taken care of our own needs first, then we can become angry, resentful, hurt etc which often leads to wanting to get back at others, leading us to being passive-aggressive.
So it is vital to have a healthy level of selfishness.

This does have to begin within the body. Taking time to go inside, to question ourselves, what do I really want, and especially ‘why’ do I really want it. Go deeper question more, Get intimate with yourself, get real, what’s it all about. This is not about analyzing your self but getting in touch with your deepest soul connection. Your soul purpose this lifetime. Soul Action. ‘I want abundance in my life and I want to be successful,’ Why? Because then I can make a difference in the world. Why do I want to be more confident? Because then I can share myself more fully with every one I meet. I will be able to overcome my fears of meeting with large groups and speaking my truth.
‘I want to meet the love of my life’ Why? Because I want companionship, sharing, love -making, intimacy. I will have more of an opportunity to grow. ‘I want my children to have good career’s, homes, relationships’ Why? Because more than anything I just want them to be happy’

All these things and many many more can be asked and questioned.
I don’t believe for one minute that the law of attraction is about getting bigger TV’s, faster cars, becoming millionaires, or condos in the sun. It goes way way deeper than that. But, by attracting possessions into your life and lets face it we dont all want big TV’s, it is then possible to learn how to use this exercise effectively, to literally re-program the mind and believe anything is possible. It takes practice and often a re-training of how the mind thinks and works, including understanding the emotional attachments that we have to each thought.
I have manifested homes, lakes, a new car, music equipment etc simply by visualization techniques, and putting all I can do into action to gain these things even when it seemed impossible. Most importantly though I have learnt to manifest the work I have wanted to be doing and to get clear on exactly what that is. That is what is most important to me. I have built my career up from being a single mother at 16 and going on to have 6 children, with all along a huge passion to dance. Most people thought I was crazy trying to do what I did. But it has been successful because I believed it could be and I always did what I loved most and looked after myself, most of the time :-) within that.
Timing of course is also very important. My children are very important to me and I have had to meet their needs and still do, but it gets easier and less complicated as they grow older.
There has also to be a connection with Universal law. Often we will have to wait, for just the right moment and not give up, ‘never never give up!’
And remember we cannot manifest that which is not good for the whole, and there would be little point in that.
We are responsible for our lives, and only us. And we only have this one life so we need to manifest well, here in the present for our own future and for the generations that follow us.

So I encourage you to not be of a miserly nature. Create some great abundance in your life, learn to thoroughly love yourself, and this means working at it, be real, no pretence, it does mean work! Get some guidance and good teaching if necessary. There are some great tips and exercises on this kind of stuff which includes confidence building strategies, empowerment techniques, presentation etc etc……
I am extremely happy to assist in anyone’s adventures. Coaching.

And then ‘go give’, immensely, with a smile inside and out, and a beaming loving heart.
Spread the love you feel for yourself into every corner of this universe, it will emanate from you as it should and will be totally irresistible and effective to others.
And again I stress….Be Real!

And as Marianne Williamson famously said:

"We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world."

GO FOR IT …………. BE CONTAGIOUS!

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Taught its principals bought a copy each for my children and enjoyed every minute of it. I read books on affirmations, spiritual abundance, I’ve listened to cd’s watched dvd’s on personal empowerment and tranced myself out on hypnotic suggestive material; I have a library full of this stuff. And then that old thing creeps in, ‘what about the poverty in the world?’ ‘What about all those starving little kids in Africa?’ ‘The homeless, the sick, the dying?’ What is it that helps one person get rich and famous when there is so much suffering in the world? Is this the American dream? After all, most of these teachers do seem to be American and mostly male, have you noticed this? In ‘The Secret’ itself out of 24 teachers I counted only 4 women. I think the thing that has helped me the most regard this question of abundance or lack of situation in the world, and what I have taught myself, is the fact that unless I truly love and look after myself, and put myself and my needs first, which appears to be selfish of course, then it is not possible for me to do very much for another. There is a great article on the three steps of self-care by teacher Michael Neill; he says …How do we express unconditional love and care for our children when everything they do is winding us up and making us crazy? The question behind this question is, I believe, at the heart of all relationships: How can I support my loved ones in sustaining their own well being without sacrificing my own? I trained with Michael and guarantee, a great guy and worth a visit to. See solutions café. But I have come to realize for instance, as a busy single mum, businesswoman, teacher, dancer, writer, poet, actress, gosh life is full! (And I’m so happy in all of this) that as I become more successful in my own work and I can afford the cleaner, the child care, the holiday time off breaks, the time also to just sit, to be and to meditate, I can let go of worrying about the mundane sides of life like how am I going to pay the bills! And working my butt off trying to make ends meet, my focus then can go far further outward to enable me to look at the worlds problems and not only look, but positively get out there and do something. Even if it is a small contribution. An easier life here and with all of my brood, yes it has been hard work, but it now means putting more energy into that which is calling out for help in the bigger world. It means we become less self-absorbed with our own small worlds, which in some case’s can be very tiny. So we have absolutely no right not to create abundance in our own lives, simply because, actually we can, it is really possible in this culture. That is not going to go away. We all have a mind. And, I believe, it is selfish and unfair to us as well as others not to use it, wisely. We are of no use to others if we do not put ourselves first, love ourselves implicitly, and give ourselves the opportunity to make the most of our lives so we have the strength, the financial resource’s and the energy to be able to be effective in helping the lives of those less fortunate. Often when we do give to others when we are not ready to, when we don’t really want to because we haven’t taken care of our own needs first, then we can become angry, resentful, hurt etc which often leads to wanting to get back at others, leading us to being passive-aggressive. So it is vital to have a healthy level of selfishness. This does have to begin within the body. Taking time to go inside, to question ourselves, what do I really want, and especially ‘why’ do I really want it. Go deeper question more, Get intimate with yourself, get real, what’s it all about. This is not about analyzing your self but getting in touch with your deepest soul connection. Your soul purpose this lifetime. Soul Action. ‘I want abundance in my life and I want to be successful,’ Why? Because then I can make a difference in the world. Why do I want to be more confident? Because then I can share myself more fully with every one I meet. I will be able to overcome my fears of meeting with large groups and speaking my truth. ‘I want to meet the love of my life’ Why? Because I want companionship, sharing, love -making, intimacy. I will have more of an opportunity to grow. ‘I want my children to have good career’s, homes, relationships’ Why? Because more than anything I just want them to be happy’ All these things and many many more can be asked and questioned. I don’t believe for one minute that the law of attraction is about getting bigger TV’s, faster cars, becoming millionaires, or condos in the sun. It goes way way deeper than that. But, by attracting possessions into your life and lets face it we dont all want big TV’s, it is then possible to learn how to use this exercise effectively, to literally re-program the mind and believe anything is possible. It takes practice and often a re-training of how the mind thinks and works, including understanding the emotional attachments that we have to each thought. I have manifested homes, lakes, a new car, music equipment etc simply by visualization techniques, and putting all I can do into action to gain these things even when it seemed impossible. Most importantly though I have learnt to manifest the work I have wanted to be doing and to get clear on exactly what that is. That is what is most important to me. I have built my career up from being a single mother at 16 and going on to have 6 children, with all along a huge passion to dance. Most people thought I was crazy trying to do what I did. But it has been successful because I believed it could be and I always did what I loved most and looked after myself, most of the time :-) within that. Timing of course is also very important. My children are very important to me and I have had to meet their needs and still do, but it gets easier and less complicated as they grow older. There has also to be a connection with Universal law. Often we will have to wait, for just the right moment and not give up, ‘never never give up!’ And remember we cannot manifest that which is not good for the whole, and there would be little point in that. We are responsible for our lives, and only us. And we only have this one life so we need to manifest well, here in the present for our own future and for the generations that follow us. So I encourage you to not be of a miserly nature. Create some great abundance in your life, learn to thoroughly love yourself, and this means working at it, be real, no pretence, it does mean work! Get some guidance and good teaching if necessary. There are some great tips and exercises on this kind of stuff which includes confidence building strategies, empowerment techniques, presentation etc etc…… I am extremely happy to assist in anyone’s adventures. Coaching. And then ‘go give’, immensely, with a smile inside and out, and a beaming loving heart. Spread the love you feel for yourself into every corner of this universe, it will emanate from you as it should and will be totally irresistible and effective to others. And again I stress….Be Real! And as Marianne Williamson famously said: "We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world." GO FOR IT …………. BE CONTAGIOUS!